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There are approximately 36.7 million people in the world living with HIV and 1.2 million people in the United States alone. A significant percentage of those living with the virus are heterosexuals including many straight men who struggle to find their voice within this pandemic. Straight positive men, like myself, are living with a condition that is highly stigmatized and believed by the general public to only happen to already marginalized groups within society; namely gay men/msm, sex workers, and IV drug users. This has greatly contributed to many of them living in silence, shame, and fear. Therefore, contributing to a decline in treatment adherence, negative lasting impacts on mental health, and disclosure challenges.
The creation, recognition, and implementation of August 16th as, National Heterosexual Men’s HIV/AIDS Awareness Day, will help break the barriers of stigma and give a sense of community to a group of people living with HIV/AIDS that is all too often left out of the conversation. Will you help the cause today by signing your name and urging the CDC to take this step in support of heterosexual men across the country living with HIV?
“Si se puede” or “yes, one can,” a term coined by Dolores Huerta, could be heard in speeches by Cesar Chavez and the United Farm Workers in the early 1970s. It’s a slogan that not only served to unify Latinx people, namely Mexican Americans, but also raised awareness around the plight of farm workers. It is still used almost 40 years later for various causes. Little did we know that a decade after the saying became popular, the world would face a health epidemic — HIV/AIDS — it had never seen before, and Hispanics would become a disproportionately affected group.
For the past twelve years, my life has largely centered on this very group, even though I myself am not Hispanic. At 14 years old, I began to take food and clothes down to a local orphanage in Tijuana, Mexico, through missionary work with my church. Almost immediately, it was apparent that I needed to learn the language if I wanted to be effective. I learned formal Spanish including reading and writing in school, while I learned what we call “street” Spanish from monthly visits to Mexico.
Later on, Tijuana would grow to become like a second home. It’s where I met my now ex-girlfriend and possibly the very place I contracted HIV. It was in this border town, a melting pot of both U.S. and Mexican culture, that I learned about life. The people, ways of life, and spirit of helping fellow humans I’ve seen in Tijuana has always inspired me. It’s also opened my eyes, educated me with real-life experiences on the plight of undocumented workers and given me a bird’s eye view on the rippling effects of poverty.
Although I am Caucasian, I have continually immersed myself in Mexican culture. Whether it is television, food or music, I am “Tijuanense” — Spanish slang for someone from TJ. I was given the Spanish nickname of “Juanito Perez” (a name I got after working as a painter in my early teens) among others such as “Miklo Velka” and “Güerro.” I may not be Mexican by blood but I often say I am at heart.
My love for the Spanish language and knowledge of the culture has served especially useful in my HIV advocacy. I help moderate the largest Spanish-speaking international support group on Facebook, Grupo Internacional para Personas con VIH/SIDA y las Personas Afectadas, founded by fellow HIV advocate Maria Mejia. With over 18,000 members from across Latinx America, the group has given me a unique perspective not only of HIV here in the United States, but also on the challenges faced by the Latinx community across the world. Whether it is antiretroviral shortages due to the political situation in Venezuela or a lack of one-pill-a-day treatment options in countries such as Mexico, change is necessary.
Culturally, this virus remains a highly stigmatized and hush-hush subject within the community. Far too often, the voices of Hispanics go unheard, in some cases due to fear of social rejection due to the simple act of being open about one’s status. As discussed in the group on Facebook and elsewhere, various factors that can contribute to the stigma, including male machismo, lack of education/awareness, religious beliefs, language barriers, immigration status and poverty. I have great regard for the power of these issues, informed by my personal experiences and my efforts to appreciate the diverse cultures the Latinx community. I am committed to being a strong ally.
To those of use who are not Latinx, I urge you to put the term “si se puede” to use by uniting with our Hispanic brothers and sisters to look beyond our differences and break the stigma. At a time when Hispanics make up almost one-third of new HIV infections and the alarming news that one in 36 Latinx men (and one-quarter of gay Latinx men) will become HIV positive if current trends continue, it’s more important to speak up now than ever. We must support the work of Latinx leaders to get information about treatment as prevention and pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) out to the Hispanic community. By doing so, we are not only chipping away at the stigma, but also saving lives along the way.
A battle isn’t won with a single soldier but rather with an army, a team in which each person’s role contributes to the overall group goal. It’s my hope that as an ally I can continue to lend a voice to the voiceless and a helping hand to a community that often lives in silence, alienated from the HIV/AIDS conversation.
If you are a Latinx person living with HIV or know someone who is, I would encourage you to visit the HIV/AIDS Resource Center for Latinos at TheBody.com by clicking here. If you are in search of a Spanish support group online check out Grupo Internacional by clicking here.
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|A plan of action to combat depression is necessary. While we may never be cured of this condition, we can take steps to suppress it. Some of these things may make us feel uncomfortable or at times seem down right pointless; however, I promise the more you do to actively combat your depression, the better you are going to feel in the long run.
As someone who has lived with depression for many years, I have learned there is no magical one-size-fits-all solution, but it’s my hope that implementing even one of these steps can help you on your own journey.
Physical Activity and Diet
Study after study has shown that exercise can help fight depression. It increases the endorphins or “feel good” chemicals flowing throughout our systems. I started out slow and am still not where I need to be, but have taken a step in the right direction. As the old saying goes: “The only bad workout is the one you didn’t do.” I push myself to go to the gym every other day, approximately three to four times a week, and do thirty minutes of cardio along with thirty minutes of weight training. Over time, I will increase the amount I work out, but for now, it’s just right for me. It energizes and motivates me to keep pushing forward.
Eating healthy is also important. I won’t sit here and say that I am a health nut; however, especially lately I have been trying to incorporate a more balanced diet into my health plan. I still fall prey to an occasional temptation for a sweet now and then, but overall, I feel better when I eat more healthfully. Cutting out soft drinks and junk food while increasing your intake of fruits and veggies are simple things you can do to set your diet back on track.
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Music is said to be the pathway to the soul, and I agree. Nothing gets my blood pumping more than uplifting music. As someone who has an hour commute to work every day, I have to find a way to keep myself occupied. Music invokes emotion, and while that can be counterproductive at times, it’s often helped me push through the depression. Soothing and relaxing music triggers good feelings and puts me in a peaceful state. As someone who has a love for the Mexican culture and the Spanish language, this incorporates the majority of what I listen to. Listen to whatever you enjoy because it will get you out of your mind’s thinking trap and take you to a state of being where your emotions have a voice.
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Build and Maintain a Support Network
Building a support network is a big step that everyone living with depression should have in place. Whether it is a close friend, significant other, beloved family member or therapist, we all need someone we can trust and talk to. For me, a combination of all of these networks helps. At any given time, if I start to feel depressed, I know I have someone I can call and speak with or even visit to express my feelings. Make it clear with your networks what you want in return when you express how you are feeling. Most of the time, I just want someone to listen. And I am fortunate to have a great support network that will do just that.
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Whether it is writing, painting, drawing or singing, do something you love that can let your feelings flow. For me as a blogger and writer, that come’s in the form of written words and poetry. Putting my thoughts on paper is a way for me to fully work through my emotions and express what I am feeling inside. It’s not always the finished product but instead the process of writing that helps. Whatever might work for you, take up a creative hobby, and if you don’t know what yours is, begin the process of exploring one. You won’t regret it!
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Connect With Nature
The beauty of the outdoors brings a sense of mindfulness that I’ve found effective in my journey. Whether it is relaxing at our family cabin in Big Bear, swimming in the Pacific Ocean or exploring the beauty of Alaska aboard the annual HIV Poz Cruise, nature is important to me. I forget about the depression and for that moment focus solely on the beauty that surrounds me. It’s a very therapeutic exercise and fun at the same time.
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Whether you are a born-again Christian like me or hold no religious views, spirituality is something that can be beneficial to anyone living with depression. Spirituality is simply connecting with something bigger than us — connecting with our surroundings in a search for the meaning of life. Religion aside, it’s something that all humans experience on one level or another. It helps us to look at the big picture because, when we do, our problems do not seem so overwhelming. It helps us discover our purpose in life, which in turn inspires hope within us that, although we may be going through a tough time, things can change for the better just as quickly as they did for the worse. I personally practice praying, reading bible scriptures and focusing on improving my relationship with Jesus Christ.
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It is well known that there is a close correlation between those living with depression and our pets. I always had animals growing up; however, I never experienced a stronger bond than in the years of enduring depression. I have two dogs named Lobo and Lacy; they both play a vital role in my health care and have been there for me through my worst. They simply want to love and to be loved, the most basic principles of life itself. When I feel down and drained of energy, seeing the smiles on their faces is an amazing feeling. They define what it means to live in the moment, and simply by being with them that energy transfers to me. Nothing like a good fluffy hug to lift my spirits.
I love the story of six-year-old child who asks his parent why dogs die at such a young age. The boy says, “People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life — like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?” The child continues, “Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don’t have to stay as long.”
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The Power of Positive Thinking
I know this step seems cliché, and I agree that it is not enough to shake the depression at times. However, I have realized that surrounding myself with positive people and filtering out the negativity and toxicity changes how my mind thinks. Sometimes it may seem as if there is nothing positive in our lives, but I guarantee you there is if you would only look for it. I suggest writing down three things you are grateful for. Regardless of how big or small, over time this will change the way you see the world. This is more of a mindset than an individual practice, but when implemented, you will notice the change.
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Stepping Outside My Comfort Zone
Depression and isolation often go hand and hand. It’s actually something that I’ve practiced in the past because I don’t want others to suffer. I’d rather block them out, ignore them and fall into a state of nothingness. It’s easier to do that than to accept that, to fully get ahold of my depression, I have to interact with society. As a social media advocate, this also means taking a break from the digital world. Although inside I may not be feeling it, the benefits of physically interacting with others are enormous. It could be as simple as hanging out with friends or giving to someone who is less fortunate. Doing these things serves as a distraction, as the focus and attention shifts from my own thoughts to the lives of others.
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Recognition and Acceptance
Awareness and recognition of what triggers my depression is important. This not only helps me better understand my condition, but also helps me formulate a better response the next time it happens. For many, recognizing when depression is sinking in can be a hard task. For me, I now know almost automatically. It’s been a learning process to get to this point; however, I can now accept when it is hitting and implement the steps above to suppress it to the best of my ability.
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Cada cuarenta segundos
“Necesitamos crear conciencia de la otra epidemia-depresión”
Por Joshua Middleton
Este es una translacion literal de un articulo que fue escrito y que es propiedad de A&U:America’s AIDS Magazine : El enlace original del articulo se puede encontrar aqui. Translacion cortesía de Kraus en fivver.com
Soy VIH-Positivo y, si, también vivo con depresión. Es correcto, lo he dicho. La gran palabra con “D” que nadie quiere decir. Permíteme compartir contigo mi perspectiva sobre una epidemia posiblemente mucho más grande que cualquiera que hayamos visto antes.
En un viaje reciente, mientras pedaleaba sobre el puente del Golden Gate, la realidad de lo que se ha vuelto un tema tan tabú realmente cobró sentido. La obra maestra arquitectónica que es visitada por enjambres de turistas anualmente también se ubica arriba de un cementerio donde miles han sucumbido a la aparentemente interminable batalla contra los problemas mentales, en específico la depresión.
Mientras el lecho marino empieza a levantarse, me asomé a mi derecha hacia otro icónico pedazo de historia en el Área de la Bahía, la infame prisión de alcatraz. Imagina estar encarcelado en tal lugar. Cuatro paredes confinándote de la libertad con solo un vistazo del mundo exterior. Un lugar que tiene entradas y salidas, pero, a pesar de saber cómo salir de él, no pareces ser capaz de lograrlo. La felicidad y alegría son tomadas de ti y la realidad es la extensión de tiempo que esta frente a ti. Parece que solo estas siguiendo la corriente. La peor parte de ello es que, nadie habla acerca de lo que estás pasando; como si no existieras. Se te deja con un sentimiento de aislamiento, rechazado por la sociedad. Ahora sabes cómo es para alguien que vive con depresión.
Irónicamente, ambas están localizadas en San Francisco, una ciudad que ha estado afectada mayormente por el virus desde el inicio de la epidemia de SIDA. Aunque algunas estadísticas muestran que el sesenta por ciento de los individuos que están viviendo con VIH también están viviendo con depresión y que somos tres veces más probable que nos deprimamos, la sociedad como un todo no le importa hablar de ello. Es incomodo, extraño y lejano a ellos que no lo han experimentado.
Sus efectos en alguien viviendo con VIH van desde casos extremos de suicidio a otros problemas como una disminución al apego al tratamiento, abuso de sustancias, y una reducción en general de la calidad de vida.
¿Sabías que el suicidio es una causa principal de muerte? Tan solo en 2014 hubo poco más de un millón de muertes al año, lo que se reduce a una muerte por suicidio aproximadamente cada cuarenta segundos. En dos-tercios de los casos, la depresión fue un factor subyacente al momento que terminaron con sus vidas. Por el momento que termines de leer este artículo en teoría cinco más se habrán ido porque no pudieron aguantar más. Fueron fuertes por demasiado tiempo.
Así es, fuertes. No leíste mal ni hay errores. Soportar la depresión requiere fuerza. No es un signo de debilidad y es el mismo estigma que nos dice esas cosas y que está manteniendo a tantos en las sombras del silencio. Necesitamos un nuevo enfoque sobre como miramos esta condición. Necesitamos animar a la gente a hablar y buscar ayuda cuando sea posible.
¿Cómo podemos esperar que la gente se adhiera al tratamiento cuando tomar una pastilla parece tan difícil como subir una montaña? ¿Por qué no estaría al alta el abuso de sustancias cuando la gente se siente tan mal en sus vidas que encuentran un modo de estar temporalmente bien y enmascarar su dolor? ¿Cómo podemos decirle a la gente a que vea lo positivo de la vida cuando el mundo parece estarse desmoronando tras ellos?
Entendiblemente, el VIH es un diagnóstico que cambia la vida. Es un virus que ha sido estigmatizado desde el principio y por varias razones puede activar depresión. Un cuidado integral tanto de la salud física como mental desde el inicio del diagnóstico es vital. Hay ayuda ahí afuera, pero la gente solo la busca cuando están listos, pero son frecuentemente retenidos por el estigma.
¿Qué puedes hacer tu para ayudar a alguien con depresión? Escuchar. Sí, es así de simple. Date cuenta que un oído imparcial y que no juzgue es crucial. Una que no esté ahí para ofrecer opiniones no solicitadas o consejos pero que solo ofrezca una línea simple de comunicación y dar un abrazo cuando sea necesario. Con este paso sencillo. Habrás validado los sentimientos de ese alguien en saber que no hay vergüenza en decir, “tengo depresión y está bien hablar de ello”.
¡Si vamos enserio acerca de alcanzar nuestra meta cero entonces debemos empezar por hablar de depresión!
El cambio inicia con una conversación y reconocer el problema – ¡Eso empieza aquí!
¿Estás buscando servicios por salud mental/abuso de sustancias? Llama la línea directa nacional SAMHSA gratuita al 1 (800) 662-HELP. ¿Estas experimentando una crisis de salud mental justo ahora o te sientes suicida? ¿Necesitas a alguien con quien hablar? Por favor, llama gratuitamente al 1 (800) 273-8255.
Joshua es un blogger de redes sociales, educador y orador público que aboga por crear conciencia del VIH y salud mental. Como alguien viviendo con VIH y depresión el mismo, él sabe lo difícil que puede ser, pero también cree firmemente en el impacto de relatar y apoyarse entre sí por medio de compartir su propio viaje personal con el mundo. El ayuda a inspirar esperanza en otros a través de este blog, www.pozitivehope.com, al mostrar consistentemente a la gente que “el cielo es el límite: hay vida más allá del VIH”.
Every Forty Seconds
“We need to raise awareness about the other epidemic—depression”
by Joshua Middleton
I am HIV-positive and, yes, I also live with depression. That’s right, I said it. The big “D” word that no one wants to say. Let me share with you my perspective on an epidemic possibly far bigger than any we have ever faced before.
On a recent trip, as I bicycled over the Golden Gate Bridge, the reality of what has become such a taboo subject really hit home. The architectural masterpiece that is visited by swarms of tourists a year also sits above a graveyard where thousands have succumbed to the seemingly neverending battle with mental health issues, namely depression.
Just as the marine layer began to lift, I peered over to my right towards another iconic Bay Area piece of history, the infamous Alcatraz Prison. Imagine being imprisoned in such a place. Four walls confining you from freedom with only a glimpse of the outside world. A place that has entrances and exits but, despite knowing how to get out, you can’t seem to accomplish it. Happiness and joy are taken from you and the reality is the vastness of time that is ahead of you. It seems you are just going through the motions. The worst part of it is, no one talks about what you are going through; it’s as if you don’t exist. You are left with a feeling of isolation, cast out from society. Now you know what it is like for someone who lives with depression.
Ironically, both are located in San Francisco, a city that has been majorly affected by the virus since the beginning of the AIDS epidemic. Although some statistics show that sixty percent of individuals who are living with HIV are also living with depression and that we are three times more likely to become depressed, society as a whole doesn’t care to talk about it. It’s uncomfortable, awkward, and foreign to those who haven’t experienced it.
Its effects on someone living with HIV range from the extreme cases of suicide to other issues such a decline in treatment adherence, substance abuse, and an overall reduction to quality of life.
Did you know that suicide is a leading cause of death? In 2014 alone there were over one million deaths a year, which breaks down to one death by suicide approximately every forty seconds. In two-thirds of the cases, depression was an underlying factor at the time they ended their lives. By the time you finish reading this article theoretically five more will be gone because they couldn’t hold on any longer. They were strong for far too long.
That’s right, strong. You didn’t misread and no it wasn’t a typo. Enduring depression takes strength. It’s not a sign of weakness and it’s the very stigma that tells us these things that is keeping many in the shadows of silence. We need a new approach to how we look at this condition. We need to encourage people to speak up and seek help whenever possible.
How can we expect people to adhere to treatment when taking a pill appears as difficult as climbing a mountain? Why would substance abuse not be on the rise when people are feeling so low in their lives that they find a way to get a temporary high and mask their pain? How can we tell people to look at the positives in life when the world seems to be crumbling before them?
Understandably, HIV is a life-changing diagnosis. It’s a virus that has been stigmatized from the very beginning and for various reasons it can trigger depression. Integral care of both physical and mental health from the beginning of diagnosis is vital. There is help out there, but people will only reach out for it when they are ready but are often held back by the stigma.
What can you do to help someone with depression? Listen. Yes, it’s that simple. Realize that a nonjudgmental and impartial ear is crucial. One that isn’t there to offer unwanted opinions or advice but just to offer an open line of communication and give a hug when needed. With this one simple step. you have validated someone’s feelings in knowing that there is no shame in saying, “I have depression and it’s okay to talk about it.”
If we are serious about reaching our goal of zero then we must start by talking about depression!
Change starts with a conversation and recognition of the problem—it starts here!
Are you in search of mental health/substance abuse services? Call SAMHSA National Hotline toll-free at 1 (800) 662-HELP. Are you experiencing a mental health crisis right now or feeling suicidal? Need someone to talk to? Please call toll-free 1 (800) 273-8255.
For years now, Kevin from RiseUptoHIV, has continually provided a platform for anyone living with HIV/AIDS to share their story. Wether it be the No Shame Campaign or #MyPozMsg campaign, RiseUpToHIV is touching hearts of tens of thousands across the world. I decided to participate in this campaign because it is my hope that through sharing my story it will inspire that same hope in the hearts of others to come to a realization that HIV is truly what we make of it. Will it define you or will it refine you? To view the entire video please click below. For the hearing impaired please click my YouTube Channel here .
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Por años, Kevin de ElevateAlVIH ha continuado dar una plataforma a las personas viviendo con el VIH/SIDA para compartir sus historias. Si es la campaña de #NoVerguenzaEnSerVIHPositivo o #MiMensajePositivo, ElevateAlVIH esta tocando los corazones de miles de personas en el mundo. Yo decidi participar en esta campaña porque yo quiero brindar esparanza a las personas positivas para que se dan cuenta que el VIH no nos hace sino es lo que hacemos con el virus. Te delimitará o te refiniará? Puedes encontrar el video completo en espanol abajo. Para la comunidad sorda y personas con discapacidad auditiva visita mi canal de YouTube aqui para verlo.
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